Mary works in the Financial Services sector and has two girls. Here she shares her advice on returning to work, and what she got out of the Mumager Ramp Up workshop.
Tell us a bit about yourself:
I am a chartered accountant working in financial services for Irish Life.
I have two girls 5 years and 1 ½ years old. They are both by IVF so I feel extremely blessed every day.
Many working parents say they find it stressful balancing work and home and 88% of mums say they feel guilty when coming back from maternity leave. What were your biggest challenges?
For me, just having them was such a blessing, so I didn’t wallow in the coming back to work. Yes, I had those thoughts and I looked at coming back to work part time and even not going back at all but with a high mortgage and lifestyle that we have, I need to work right now. My husband works a few days in the UK every week so that’s my biggest challenge. For me the key is not allowing myself to feel guilty. I think it’s a good example for my children to see me go out to work and in time understand how I worked hard for my career and that they may aspire to working hard to have a successful career also.
What support is available at Irish Life and how has this helped you?
They have been understanding and supportive, particularly when I returned which greatly helped. Recently the Mumager course was introduced and I found that very helpful.
You recently attended a Mumager workshop – what did you get out of the course?
Tracy makes the course so enjoyable by her energy and enthusiasm. I met people in the same situation as me which was great. There was great advice on how to handle difficult conversations, good time saving tips, tips on getting organised, how to build resilience. I really got a lot from the course and recommend everyone to do it!
What advice would you give to other mums, or parents returning to work?
Phase your return if possible, 3 day weeks for the first few weeks, then 4 days, building to 5 days.
Organisation is so important, literally having everything in the car the night before. Every night I try to do a household chore so that there is less of a build up for the weekend.
Look after ‘you’ by doing what you love or makes you feel good like the gym or continuing to have your nails done.